Christening gift from friends — what do you give if you're not a godparent?

The invitation to the baptism is on the table, the excitement is high — and then the question arises: What do you give as a baptism gift if you aren't the godparent? You have been invited as a friend of the family and want to bring something special without going over the top. Many people know exactly how that feels, and there are some great answers for just that situation.

Is it okay for a friend to give a baptism gift?

The short answer: Yes, absolutely. A baptism gift from friends is not just permitted, it is welcomed. A baptism is a celebration to which the family has intentionally invited you — and if you are invited, you are allowed to give a gift. It is no longer the case that only godparents and grandparents give lasting keepsakes. Especially as a friend of the family, choosing a thoughtful gift shows that you care deeply about the child.

The difference: While godparents traditionally opt for baptism spoons or cross pendants and grandparents often give large heirlooms, as a friend, you have a charming advantage — you have more freedom of choice. No protocol, no expectations. Just a sincere gesture.

The best baptism gifts from friends

A good baptism gift from friends hits the sweet spot: meaningful, but not too intimate. Personal, but not intrusive. Here are four ideas that achieve exactly that.

Silver baby rattles

A 925 sterling silver baby rattle is practical, safe, and beautiful all at once. The child can hold it, the parents can display it on a shelf — and in twenty years, it will still serve as a reminder of this special day. Our 925 silver baby rattles are available as a handle rattle, a compact ring rattle, or with an acrylic ring — babies usually start grasping handle rattles around the second or third month. As a friend, this hits the right note: valuable, but not over the top.

Picture frames for the first photo

A silver picture frame for the first baptism photo is one of the most emotional gifts you can give. The parents will frame the photo, display it, and be reminded every time of who was there to celebrate. A gift that doesn't disappear into a cupboard but stands in the living room. In our baby picture frame collection, you will find frames in various sizes, made of silver or with colorful enamel — perfect as a baptism gift from friends.

Baby gift sets

Want to play it safe? Then a curated gift set is the right choice. Our baby gift sets combine several silver items in elegant packaging — making your gift look thoughtful and generous without you needing to overthink it. Ideal if you are invited to a baptism for the first time and aren't sure what is appropriate.

Engraved silver spoon

Yes, even as a friend, you are allowed to give the classic gift. An engraved silver spoon is by no means reserved exclusively for godparents. Especially if you have a personal connection to the child — perhaps you are the father's best friend or the mother's closest friend — an engraved spoon is a gesture with weight. The child's name and the baptism date make it something special.

What should you give for a baptism — the right scale

The question of budget is legitimate. As a guideline, 20–50 € is usually standard for friends and acquaintances; those who are very close to the family often give a little more. You can find more on this in our guide How much money should you give for a baptism? If you group together as a circle of friends, you can jointly give a piece from our 925 silver baptism gifts without it being too much for the individual.

A tip: Include a handwritten card. No long text; two or three sentences are enough. Something like: For your journey through life — from your friends who are looking forward to everything that is to come. That turns a beautiful gift into an unforgettable one.

Engraving — a lovely gesture even from friends

An engraving transforms any silver gift into something unique. The child's first name, the baptism date, or a short quote — this isn't just for godparents and relatives. An engraving feels especially heartfelt coming from friends because it shows: you put thought into it. You can order the engraving from us by request: you provide the item and the desired text, and our engraving workshop will check if and where it will fit on your piece.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it appropriate for a friend to give a baptism gift?

Yes, absolutely. A baptism gift from friends is a lovely gesture of appreciation. It doesn't have to be as substantial as a godparent's gift, but it should be personal and chosen with care.

How much should you spend on a baptism gift as a friend?

As a friend or acquaintance of the family, 20–50 € is usually common; those who pool their money can give more. The gesture is more important than the amount. A small silver gift with an engraving shows more thoughtfulness than an expensive gift voucher.

Which baptism gifts are particularly suitable from friends?

Silver baby rattles, small picture frames for the first photo, or an engraved baby spoon are particularly popular. These gifts are personal, stylish, and remain as keepsakes.